Men stare at them, leer at them, make crude passes at them, and interact with them all day every day, with sex clearly the subtext of every interaction—even the briefest, most innocuous non-mating exchanges.
While this is just a thought experiment, the facts that underpin it are very real. 166 pounds), and he carries less body fat (18 percent vs.
We’ll also focus on women’s vulnerabilities, concerns and anxieties that you might not have considered before, because these are the aspects of the female experience that have long stood between men and a greater understanding of—and success with—women.
Go to a sports bar in any major city or college town on game day, and invariably you will run into a crew of gorgeous young women in skin-tight, cutoff referee outfits or school jerseys walking around, selling shot specials or beer buckets.
It will help you have better dates, cooler conversations and hotter sex.
It will help you to stop acting like a self-sabotaging dick.
At that point you’ve reduced your customer to nothing more than a cash dispenser, or, since we’re talking about objectifying a woman, a sex dispenser. At the purely practical level of attracting women, it’s stupid. You and some friends decide to check out a new gay bar that you’ve heard has a lot of hot guys.
If you want to guarantee mating failure, all you have to do is think of her as nothing more than an inanimate object—as an “8” or a “9,” as a simplistic robot with a set of “triggers” and “hot buttons” to manipulate. You’re single, it’s Friday night after a long week and you’ve decided to go out and have some fun.Women are surrounded by bigger, stronger, faster men who probably want to have sex with them and could take it by force.This is their experience not just at bars and clubs, but at school and work, on the street and the subway.This is how everything, not just liquor, is sold to men—hand tools, shampoo, Doritos, porn, cars.All of them shamelessly use beautiful, scantily clad women with big boobs, tight asses and long legs as the vehicles to deliver their message. The problem from a mating perspective (besides the obvious ethical one) is that normal women feel this objectification acutely.
It’s built around the assumption that men and women think alike about sex, romance and dating without even acknowledging the basic physical differences between male and female bodies and the resulting male vs. For instance, if a woman seems like she’s sending “mixed messages,” or acting “hot and cold,” or there’s a mysterious push-me/pull-you erotic dance going on, it’s not that she’s being weird or manipulative (at least, typically).